Lori – There are a number of stories in this world that appear unanswered, mystery of the 27 club musicians passing or if Bigfoot really exists, what happens at area 51 and similar conspiracies! Some say we will never get the accurate answers and some don’t question it at all.

But what do you do when you find out living with your partner was a lie? This is the story of a widower who found his wife’s secret identity after she passed – Shocking!

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

Christmas morning in 2010 something really surprising happened, Blake Ruff was expected to leave on a holiday when he found his wife outside in his drive, she had a gunshot wound to her.

I mean obviously it was a terrifying moment to find her like that, how could they have not heard the shot?

The Relationship

 

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

Lori always mentioned that she was from Arizona and both her parents were not with her.

She gave out information about her father being an unsuccessful stock broker and also that she had no siblings! Blake was troubled because Lori never really opened up about her childhood or background. He failed to realize that she may have a point in not sharing all this crucial detail and they have been so close all their adult lives, it must have been devastating..

Suicide Notes

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

One was addressed to her husband and the other to their daughter! These notes were supposed to get the family some closure but instead they found something worse… They were upset and had no idea this is what the note brings them.

Signs Of A Mentally Disturbed Person

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

Reading her notes the family figured, it was written by someone who was not mentally stable. It also had some details from her past – Due to the privacy matters and consent, it hasn’t been released yet but Lori was going suffering from a mental illness.

LOVE STORY

 

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

This crazy story started out first when she met and married Blake Ruff in 2003. Blake was from a well-known family in Texas and the two met each-other during bible study!

Lori was a tad bit reserved but Blake instantly fell in love with her and the couple got married in 2004. The witness was their preacher and it was pretty clear they were in LOVE

Struggling Case

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

Lori and Blake continued trying to have kids and their attempts were unsuccessful. After many many miscarriages the pair decided to attempt a new method vitro fertilization.

This method did work out for them and they eventually delivered a baby girl in 2008 At this point things started to get hectic and it was stressful for Lori as well to bear a child.

Welcoming A New Born

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

 

Lori delivered her baby girl, things did not look up even after. Lori turned into a completely new person – her relationship with her husband was painful and as time passed she didn’t let Blake’s family interact with their daughter.

For a family that accepted Lori and made her feel loved, there was something so off about her behavior.

Trouble In Paradise

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

Lori had been acting weird for the past few weeks, making everyone around her uncomfortable. She was fascinated with taking naps and did not like social gatherings – she would abruptly leaving gatherings. she also showed interest in Blake’s family history, but she would never want to talk about her own family.

The Couple Began Therapy

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

 

Even therapy didn’t seem like it was helping the family, it failed miserably. Blake decided to leave Lori for good and moved back in with his parents in 2010, the year he filed for divorce.

Lori’s behavior, on the other hand, was getting worse than ever, no one could really deal with this level of insanity. She wrote mean emails to the family and even stole their house keys once! The erratic behavior started post Blake filed for divorce, they suspected her to break into the house Poor Lori was emotionally and mentally damaged and she needed help!

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

The neighbors noticed Lori taking walks with her daughter and said that both of them looked pale and weak. On speaking with Lori, the family realized she was constantly talking about her problems pertaining her behavior and not addressing it.

The Ruff family filed a cease and desist order right before Lori passed and her strange behavior was catching up!

The Box

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

Not long after Lori passed Blake was asked to go through her belongings and look for clues as to understand what happened! It was this time around Blake found the lock box that she had left in the closet and had instructed everyone not to open!

Inside the box were documents that had covered everything the family was questioning. The contents of the box left Blake shocked and he thought he knew his wife and the life they shared. Out of the things discovered was a birth certificate and license under the name of Becky Sue Turner, what in the world?

Blake obviously had no idea that she went through changing her name from Lisa to Lori before they got married…

Legal Proof

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

 

The box had various documents that confirmed that Lori had changed her name from Becky Sue Turner to Lori Erica Kennedy – which was supposedly her maiden name. Blake also found some random notes and scribbles that read, North Hollywood Police’ and Ben Perkins’.

More Information

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

The family was completely shocked on finding Lori’s true identity, and they decided to investigate further. They could not pull up much from Lori’s name, but they did look up Becky Sue Turner.

This was worse than finding Lori’s identity – they found that Becky Sue Turner was born July 18 1969 and had died on December 1971 at the age of 2 due to inhalation of smoke in a house fire. It was clear that Lori Erica Ruff was not Becky turner, but there was a more serious question, who was Lori and what was she running away from?

Legal

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

Turns out after she left Idaho, she moved to Dallas and decided to appear before a judge in July of 1988 to change her name to Lori Erica Kennedy. She obtained a license the same year and graduated from the University of Texas in 1997 and somehow she managed this far

Background Check!

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

Blake also found out about Lori’s stripper past and that was her job in the early 1990s – another interesting fact she got breast implants for this. looking at the photos it concluded that Lori had a rhinoplasty and a nose job. The change of name wasn’t the only thing, she also changed some of her physical appearances.

FLYER MAKING ROUNDS

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She PassedAfter all the investigation they found Lori assumed the identity of various people, reasons unanswered. Blake and his family were unable to comprehend what was going on with Lori’s identity and hence they decided to take help! Crowd sourcing to find help in this hunt and they were quite amazed.

The investigators knew about the case and had some knowledge about her past and the story has been making rounds, but the mystery remains unsolved.

 

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

 

The story made rounds on the internet and Lori was listed as a Jane Doe with the National missing and Unidentified person list, but no information was revealed.

Not a single credible source came forward, but they did have a lot of conspiracy theories. Lori’s life and death and come down to being straight creepy, some say she may have been a part of a cult or under a witness program, some even claimed she could not be dead. Some results showed from an unlikely source as well..

Forensics came into the picture

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

Colleen Fitzpatrick began her investigation in 2013, she took up forensic genealogy on the side as a hobby and has been wanting to assist the case. She looked at familial connections and previous had helped reunite holocaust survivors.

 

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

 

Fitzpatrick had not much of an option, once she had found distant relatives of Lori’s but she realized there were more to Lori than the story.

After failed attempts, she started digging deeper and found a family tree based on her database. Fitzpatrick spent hours trying to make connections, but she had completely forgotten she had Lori’s extended family right before her.

She also discovered that Becky Sue Turner may have been born at the same as Kimberly – Kimberly’s family searched for her for years, they never filed a missing person report because she was an adult. Detectives had no idea how to solve the case. In the 30 years since she had run away, Deanne confessed that not a single day went by that she didn’t think about Kimberly.

Living A lie

Husband Finds Out Wife's Identity Years After She Passed

For Lori it was a lifetime of fakeness, lies and cover ups. As her marriage deteriorated she started being more erratic.

The Ruff family and Cassidy family reunited and their daughter has two sets of grandparents. It has only been a roller coaster for the family, with uncertainty and bizarre and the world have been questioning this for long years.

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